The Highly Sensitive Person book cover In her national bestseller, The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You, author Elaine . The Highly Sensitive Person: Six research-based books about high sensitivity, relationships and self-esteem by Elaine Aron. Dear Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) or anyone raising a highly sensitive child ( HSC),. Welcome. I'm Elaine Aron. I began researching high sensitivity in

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Browse our editors' picks for the best books of the month in fiction, nonfiction, The Highly Sensitive Person's Workbook by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D. Paperback. Editorial Reviews. norinkgibipen.cf Review. Are you an HSP? Are you easily overwhelmed by According to author Elaine Aron (herself an HSP), sensitive people have the 'This remarkable book speaks clearly to highly sensitive people. The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N. Aron Ph.D. () Paperback on Used books may not include companion materials, may have some shelf wear.

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Sep 21, Thomas rated it really liked it Shelves: Thankful that this book exists to support those who have always felt more sensitive to the world around them. Though I enjoy a party every now and then, I do prefer one-on-one conversations and time spent reading books and listening to Ariana Grande. With the popularity of books like Quiet by Susan Cain, society has started to warm up to those who desire time alone and those who get aroused faster by external stimuli.

Still, Elaine Aron's The Highly Sensitive Person contributes to our understa Thankful that this book exists to support those who have always felt more sensitive to the world around them. Still, Elaine Aron's The Highly Sensitive Person contributes to our understanding of sensitive people by shedding light on our relationships, our work lives, and how we can thrive in the world around us.

I appreciate how Aron frames sensitivity as a trait that carries both strengths and weaknesses, as any facet of an individual does. She provides helpful tools to highly sensitive people on how to maximize the assets of sensitivity as well as strategies to cope with its challenges. She discusses how friends and family can interact with sensitive people in understanding ways, such as by not overreacting if a sensitive person asks for time alone or declines an invitation to a large gathering.

While I felt that her tone came across as a little condescending to sensitive people at times, for the most part Aron did an amazing job of accepting and celebrating a trait so often dismissed by society. I most loved Aron's emphasis on how we should avoid both pathologizing sensitivity and erasing it with medication.

Though the book felt outdated in some parts - such as by not including therapies like DBT - Aron makes relevant connections between various fields like psychology and gender studies. Overall, recommended to those who might identify as a highly sensitive person, or to those who want to understand us better. I think we all carry some sensitivity within us, and we can all work to cultivate it to our advantage.

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View all 3 comments. May 29, Amy rated it it was amazing Recommended to Amy by: Ron and Karen B. This, for me, was an amazing book. I will be reading it again eventually, just to remind myself of all the important information that Aron researched and now shares with readers.

It has taken me roughly 30 years to learn many things about myself which are clearly explained by Aron's research. I feel more confident about expressing my needs, now that I know I'm not the only one, and now that I have been reminded about the strengths which balance out my weaknesses.

I am definitely a "highly sensiti This, for me, was an amazing book. Sometimes Aron uses terms and concepts that are probably common in pyschology, but which seem a bit odd or out of place in the regular world.

However, it is definitely worth overlooking any strangeness in order to get to the important information which she presents. View all 4 comments. Apr 20, Ruth rated it really liked it Shelves: If you have ever felt like life is too overwhelming and all you want to do is crawl into a cave and hide away from it all, this book might be for you.

This book contains a little too much psychobabble for my taste too much talk about parenting your inner infant and other wonderful stuff like that - without all of that I would have given it five stars but I am glad I read it because I finally understand why I am so weird. Now I know why I can be such an introvert even though I love being around If you have ever felt like life is too overwhelming and all you want to do is crawl into a cave and hide away from it all, this book might be for you.

Now I know why I can be such an introvert even though I love being around people, why I can't handle people playing with my hair, why I can't remember people's names when I meet them for the first time, why I have such a low tolerance for alcohol, caffeine, and most medications, why I can't stand wearing wool scarves, why I startle so easily Now I know that all of my weirdness is genetic and I'm pretty sure I lovingly passed it onto my oldest child.

The theory is basic: Their nervous systems are constantly alerting them to new things, which can be overwhelming after a while. These people need down time, peace and quiet to recover from being around people, doing fun or exciting things, going somewhere loud, even interacting with their immediate family if it involves an activity where there is a lot to process.

They need this down time even if these are fun activities that they look forward to and enjoy immensely! They also experience more physical symptoms of stress - their bodies react more to everything from what they eat or drink to what they are thinking about to demands placed on them by other people or their jobs. Highly sensitive people are prone to anxiety and depression, partially because they are a minority in a world populated mostly with people who aren't quite so sensitive and don't understand why they have a hard time handling the normal demands of life or always seem stressed or unsocial.

It can be easy to feel like you are falling short when you are constantly needing to "take a break" or "get some air" or "have some alone time," etc.

Highly sensitive types pick up on these differences, these nuances, even more than the average person would and take them to heart. There can be a deep feeling of not doing or being enough, or of being high-maintenance or having "issues. In fact, most highly sensitive people are smart, thoughtful, and introspective - they have lots of thoughts and they have deep thoughts. So, be proud of your inner sensitivity! Also, realize your limits and plan your life accordingly.

If you are going out on Friday night, especially if it is a new or fast-paced, busy experience, fill your Saturday with relaxing activities because you will probably need time to be quiet, rest, and just think and View 1 comment. Feb 06, Catherine rated it really liked it.

This is the only source I've found that so clearly separates the "Highly Sensitive" trait from simply being an introvert which I am not. This book helped me understand my own personality in a way I've been looking for since I was little. I feel empowered by this new knowledge, and more able to adapt and adjust to be a happier person, partner and human.

The only reason I gave this 4 stars and not 5 is because I think the author may lose readers when going in depth into subjects like psychotherap This is the only source I've found that so clearly separates the "Highly Sensitive" trait from simply being an introvert which I am not.

The only reason I gave this 4 stars and not 5 is because I think the author may lose readers when going in depth into subjects like psychotherapy, early childhood being the cause of most adult problems, and spiritual beliefs.

Not to say some won't find this information helpful, but that it makes the book a more dense read, and in my opinion, strays from the main subject. The author so clearly described problems I've had throughout my life--at work, with family, with friends, and in my relationships.

More so than any book I've read on relationships alone. Not only did she depict these situations so well, but she gave really clear advice on how to change the situation for the better for all parties involved without having to change who you are as a person. Feb 16, Bookworm rated it did not like it Shelves: Thoroughly disappointed.

I felt the book went too much into repeating how different people are HSPs are so at different points of their lives childhood, adulthood, etc. I get it already. I had hoped there would be more about how to cope and what HSPs can do. Others have already gone over the issues in the book, but one part that particularly bothered me and turned me off for Thoroughly disappointed.

Others have already gone over the issues in the book, but one part that particularly bothered me and turned me off for the rest of the book is one of the early quizzes about being out vs. As someone else mentions, the formatting of the book is not conducive for clear organization. This particular quiz in my version comes in the middle of the section that she recommends people to read.

I'm not sure if that is an editorial decision, but I was annoyed that the quiz was not placed before the section, as I flipped through the pages after to find the section she recommended. I also take severe issue with the quiz itself.

It specifically refers to being "in" or "out" and whether the quiz taker leans too far in one direction or another. According to this quiz I am just on the cusp of being inside too much. But the wording of the question or her decision of how to score it is problematic. I do not see the issue of spending most of my time inside or alone, nor do I see a problem with stopping with my activity if I feel a little too overwhelmed to continue and need a break. Being out more often won't help me be happier or somehow make me less sensitive.

As another reviewer notes, the author discusses a woman who had a history of abuse and assault who finally started her artistic career after ending an abusive marriage. Aron does not note if the woman received therapy or other steps she might have taken and seems to imply that the woman was somehow "blocked" from her artistic abilities.

That situation probably had less to do with sensitivity and more about healing from her past. As yet another reviewer notes, Aron does get into New Age and religion. I won't deny that it probably helps many HSPs in their daily lives, but it went a little too far for me and I definitely just wanted the book to end. It's unfortunate because it seems Aron is a leading figure when discussing HSPs and I had been very much looking forward to this book.

I had also been considering downloading the workbook that goes with this, but it looks like I'll be skipping this and any other works by this author. I probably didn't like this mostly because it's self-help and I was just trying to get some concept of how to explain myself to other people Even with a rather tormented adolescence, I never thought there was anything 'wrong I probably didn't like this mostly because it's self-help and I was just trying to get some concept of how to explain myself to other people Even with a rather tormented adolescence, I never thought there was anything 'wrong' with my sensitivity.

I always liked being the way I was, so I think a separate book for people who are that way and enjoy it is in order. I would have preferred this if it had been geared at informing and not at fixing the way we think about sensitivity.

Understanding something leads to changing our concept, and telling a large group of variable people how to change something is just not helpful. I also thought she was basing too much of it on how she is, as a sensitive person. It would have been beneficial if she would have talked about her own experience so that there was some context in the form of a caveat about how the information would apply to us.

More research and less personal experience would have added credibility. Jan 30, Sarah rated it did not like it Shelves: If I hadn't read Quiet before reading this book, I may have given it 2 or 3 stars instead. There were a few helpful discussions of sensitivity and the differences between sensitive and non-sensitive people, but overall..

The author sounds very stuck in her way of thinking, and the style of writing was very grating. Everything was about childhood trauma except for the excerpt that said it wasn't all abo Quiet: Everything was about childhood trauma except for the excerpt that said it wasn't all about childhood trauma, really There was a whole lot of shock factor -- she would start talking about a client, then all of a sudden drop "sexual abuse" all over the description and talk about childhood trauma.

In one case, she talked about a former classmate who was teased, but who was getting better and moving on, and then -- bam! I have no tolerance for this kind of writing. Especially since this is in a book about highly sensitive people, you'd think she would know better than to pull that. Don't recommend. If you want to know about introversion and sensitivity, Quiet is a much better and more helpful book.

View all 5 comments. I actually found this book to be very helpful. Highly sensitive people share many of the same attributes: They are typically highly intelligent, very creative, compassionat I actually found this book to be very helpful.

They are typically highly intelligent, very creative, compassionate, spiritual, and are deeply affected by the arts.

They are sensitive many things both internally and externally that most in the general population overlook, such as slight changes in a room, and the moods of others. They are also very easily over-aroused by various forms of external stimuli excess noise, chaos, too many people, bright lights, etc often needing to retreat from the stimuli in order to regain their sanity.

In fact the majority of the book centers on coping with over-arousal, the HSP Achilles' heel. HSP's tend to fall in love hard and form strong attachments to certain individuals, and are significantly affected by traumatic events in their childhoods.

Other hallmark traits of HSP's are that they form very close friendships, often have problematic relationships with doctors who, in order to survive med school, tend to not relate to the highly sensitive , are valued in their vocation for integrity and work ethic, but are not good self-promoters. They often don't do well with transition and change. These extremely sensitive individuals are not "flawed," as our non-HSP counterparts may lead us to believe personally, although my sensitivity has challenged me, I don't share the author's defensive viewpoint that I am under-valued because of it.

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According to the author, Western and Indo-European societies tend to under-value many HSP attributes such as introversion, but HSP's are actually important contributors to a balanced civilization, acting as the advisors, judges, and spiritual leaders to the population majority's "warrior king" tendency to fearlessly expand and conquer.

The HSP tendency to "pause and check" is the cautious counterpoint that keeps civilizations in tact. I highly recommend this book for anyone who thinks they fall under the category of a highly sensitive person. I picked it up because it was recommended to me and although I was a little skeptical because it was one author's research and perspective, I was floored by how much of what she described fit my personality completely - in fact, not only me, but a few of my family members as well extreme sensitivity is an inherited genetic trait.

Aron writes in a manner that helps the HSP not only to cope with, but to celebrate their unique qualities. Society needs a select group of individuals who are creative, docile, and spiritually in tune to effectively function. In some cultures such as China, the HSP personality is the most highly-valued.

I found the chapters on physical treatment particularly helpful medications such as SSRI's or anti-anxiety meds may be helpful for HSP's both in the short or long term, but aren't necessarily a good fit for everyone. It should also be pointed out that some of her conclusions about SSRI's may be outdated as more research has been done since this book's publication in ' My favorite chapter was the final chapter, which focuses on the HSP's tie to the spiritual realm.

It was actually very practical, citing examples about how HSP's, religious and non- religious alike, tend to look inward and seek for explanations beyond what can be explained by science. Aug 16, Salma rated it did not like it. View all 30 comments. Mar 04, Cindy rated it it was amazing Recommends it for: Those learning about people.

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Ever wonder why some people perceive almost everything while others seem oblivious? Ever wonder why some folks seem overwhelmed at times while others see to manage through those markets and crowds without a care? Ever wonder why some are told they are just too sensitive, which makes them distance themselves from others?

Have you ever thought you were weird because you couldn't stand to watch movies or read books with a lot of violence in them while other people seemed to love that stuff? Have you ever felt completely overwhelmed from being around a lot of noise, strong scents, or bright lights, especially florescent lights? Have you ever been called "too sensitive" or "too shy?

Are you particularly sensitive to changes in temperature, body language, and your surroundings? Do other people's moods affect you? If so, you might be highly sensitive. No, this is not one of those self-help books written by a quack who is going to try to convince you to eliminate all forms of stress, including family, a job, and bills from your life in order to nourish your soul.

But it is a book that will change your life if you think you might be highly sensitive. I know, it sounds silly, but I'm telling you, as soon as I sat down to read this book, I felt like someone finally understood all of the little quirks about me that other people have always thought were weird but have always just been part of who I am.

I even talked to a few of my friends who I think might be highly sensitive, and they felt the same way. I decided to read this after Anne from Modern Mrs. Darcy modernmrsdarcy. I remember the blog post distinctly because it was the first time I had ever heard anyone else mention the topic of people who tend to "screen" books with violent content because they prefer to avoid any type of entertainment with it.

As someone who has always avoided books, movies and TV shows with violence as well as scary movies in general, this caught my attention. I always thought that my tendency to avoid scary movies was due to my overactive imagination that caused me to have frequent and vivid nightmares after watching these types of movies, which is in part true, but this is also a sign that you might be highly sensitive.

Aron, a licensed psychiatrist, takes readers on a journey through the mind of a highly sensitive person. If you yourself are highly sensitive, you'll learn more about how your mind and body work.

You'll learn how to view yourself as someone who is unique and ultimately needed in the universe. I particularly liked Aron's notes on the idea of a warrior-king type of personality and the idea of a more sensitive advisor type of personality and the benefits to society of both. I appreciated that while Aron encourages neither type of personality to view theirs as superior, each does have its own advantages.

For example, as a sensitive person, you might be considered shy, sometimes aloof, or even arrogant, since you tend to keep to yourself and find it hard to make friends.

The more questions you answered with yes, the more crucial it is for you to learn how to manage your over-sensitivity. The same situation and the same stimulation cause different levels of stress and arousal in different people. And again, you inherited it, not learned to be over sensitive. Some people and even animals are a little bit more sensitive than others, some a lot more.

So there is a scale of how oversensitive you really are in which direction. Your over sensitive nervous system makes you different. Why the sensitivity of your nervous system is that important is very simple. You perform best at any kind of situation or task when your nervous system is moderately alert and aroused. Too little arousal makes you dull and bored and you need extra stimulation coffee, social activity, career change etc. On the other hand, if you are too aroused, you become distressed, clumsy and confused.

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Since your nervous system is very sensitive, you can easily get too aroused. That kicks you out of the center and out of the optimal arousal state when you can perform best at a certain task. You are more aware of the subtle happenings in the environment, which you process in a semiconscious or unconscious way.

Processing more information leads to higher stimulation and to the final difference where something that is moderately arousing for most people can easily be highly arousing for a highly sensitive person.

Different types of stimulation As a highly sensitive person, you have to be extremely careful about the level of stimulation you are exposed to. Stimulation is everything that wakes up the nervous system and makes brain neurons active. The source of stimulation can be external or internal. You have to be extremely careful about the latter. And an over sensitive person reacts with arousal to any kind of stress.

Different types of stimulation: External stimulation social activity, performing a task, being on a roller coaster etc. Internal stimulation intensive thoughts, hunger, pain etc. Stimulation in your control Stimulation out of your control Emotional stimulation Subtle stimulation Stress as stimulation Let me give you a practical example from my own life of how complicated all the stimuli can become.

When I enter a room of known people, I never engage with them with ease. I first sense what kind of a mood every individual is in. I assess who is talking to whom and why, and what all the potential topics could be. I grasp the vibes in the air, I notice if there were any changes made to the room, and so on. Only when I understand in detail and on a very subtle level what is happening with energies, words and actions in the room, can I properly engage.

I calculate all the possible ways to engage in the smoothest way possible. I need to first understand, and then I can act. I can easily take in vibes that are in the air, and if things are really out of the ordinary I might have trouble engaging at all. Two different types of highly sensitive people There are two systems in your brain.

Behavioral activation takes in the information from the senses and gives orders to the limbs to get moving. The purpose of this system is to move you forwards, especially towards new things food, new alliances etc.

When this system is active you are curious, bold and impulsive. Behavioral inhibition, on the other hand, moves you away from things and makes you attentive to danger. This part of your brain makes you alert, cautious and watchful for signs; it compares the current situation to what had been normal in the past and what should be expected in the future. If there are deviations, behavioral inhibition makes you stop and understand the situation first. Highly sensitive people have a much stronger behavioral inhibition system.

But there can be two versions: Weak activation system and average inhibition strength — These people are usually calm, quiet and like a simple life.

They are usually advisors or monk type of people. Strong activation and inhibition system — These are people who are curious and cautious, bold and anxious, easily bored and aroused. There is a constant struggle between the advisor and warrior within. The environment of a highly sensitive person matters a lot Being a highly sensitive person is an inherited trait. But every inherited trait can be enhanced, decreased, woken up or eliminated by repeating life experiences or a subject functioning in a specific environment.

For highly sensitive people, bad environments can make things much worse. Life starts to seem frightening, the caution system gets even stronger, and all the negative experiences seem even more traumatic. Statistically, almost all depressed and anxious sensitive people had a troubled childhood. That leads to a huge level of stress, damaged health, complete inhibition, different kinds of mental problems, severe negative thoughts , low self-esteem, and issues like Complex PTSD.

Highly sensitive children need to be understood and not to additionally deal with special problems caused by inadequate parents — underprotective or overprotective ones. If you had a troubled childhood, you have to reframe it in a positive situation and use other psychological tools to make peace with it. More about that in the rest of the article. If you have a highly sensitive child, you need to become an especially understandable and encouraging caretaker.

The same author wrote a book dedicated to over sensitive children that you should absolutely read. Why you are special as a highly sensitive person Every personality trait is a neutral one. Being highly sensitive is no exception to that. You were born to be among advisors and thinkers, the spiritual and moral leaders of your society. There is every reason for pride. Aron Possessing strong intuition and creativity As a highly sensitive person, you have very strong intuition.

You have a very strong sixth sense and you often know just how things will probably turn out.I could understand that. Is time alone each day as essential to you as food and water?

It's mixing up meanings of "sensitive" as if they're all interchangeable, and throwing in political stereotypes and even some religious new-agey stuff.

Shelves: nonfiction , own-physical , psychology Thankful that this book exists to support those who have always felt more sensitive to the world around them. This book is written in a profoundly heartfelt and understandable manner while conveying and retaining the author's professional and scientific integrity.

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